Let’s talk about dating apps: online dating seems to be such a delicate subject to some. Various people I know, go online to find love but deny they do because they are too embarrassed to talk about it. But why? I think its okay especially if you live in a big city and by the way, it’s the 21st century! That’s my opinion.
I do have to admit that there was a time where I would blast someone if they told me they use Apps to find a Partner – Specifically ones like Tinder, where you choose by LOOKS only. So I understand why some people don’t feel comfortable when the subject comes up.
About two years ago I did a little experiment and downloaded Tinder. Not for dating purposes though. Back then I was doing a Photography project. The Idea was to approach random people into standing in front of my Camera. (Model Agencies where too much of a hassle) So I don’t really have any “real” Dating experience with Tinder, but I have heard Stories. Good and Bad – my experiment turned out fantastic! Some of the people I photographed back then are good friends of mine today.
I recently read about another dating app called Bumble on Welt.de. One very intriguing aspect is that on Bumble the Woman has to make the first move. If you find a mutual liking while swiping, YOU as the Woman have to write first. Your Match has about 24 hours to get back to you, if they miss their chance, you will be unmatched, which makes the “game” a lot more foreseeable. It takes a heck load of creativity, as your first message has to make them want to continue having a conversation with you.
So I downloaded the App to see for myself. Turns out I would definitely choose Bumble over Tinder. Although I am not looking for a Suitor at the moment, I feel like the people on Bumble are more decent compared to the ones on Tinder. I’m not saying that people on tinder are not polite – but the subject Sex comes quicker to a conversation than it does on Bumble. To people out there looking for a one – time thing, I think Tinder is a good way to go.
If you’re looking for a serious relationship, I would n’t rely on using dating Apps. Go out with your friends, be open-minded and don’t be shy to make the first move!
have you used dating apps before? What was your experience? Let me know in the comments.
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